The last few weeks of this have been really emotionally draining, but let me try give you the cliff-notes version:
|That's Abby on the right - the taller one. :)|
A practice or two later, Abby came home crying. Again. This doesn't happen every time, but it has happened enough. She said that the "new" head coach told them that their formation "sucked," and they made the girls "run around the gym until their sides hurt." I was like, whaaaaa???? (After talking to another coach, I found out that they had to do 3 laps around the tiny gym - not that it makes it OK, but they were never told to run "till their sides hurt.")
I told all this to DH, and he said what I was thinking, too: "let's pull her off the squad." I was like, YES! She'll be so happy. Enough is enough. So we went up to her room to tell her this "good" news...and she was not exactly happy about it. Her first competition was in 4 days, and she really wanted to compete. Oh. Not expecting that. But I can totally understand. She has put in all the hard work, and she wants to experience the payoff. So this was our solution: she doesn't get dropped off at practice anymore. One of us stays there the entire time, "closed practice" policy be damned. These coaches obviously can't be trusted to treat these girls right. After a lengthy and tiresome phone conversation with the "new" head coach, she agreed to let me or DH stay there during practice. I did have to play the "If I can't be there then neither can Abby" card - which I was dead serious about - and I think when she realized that I was serious, she relented.
|The older girls on the squad LOVE her! It's really sweet to see them all treat her like a little sister. I'm thankful for that.|
So. Yesterday was the first competition. What a thrill to see our girl out there on that floor! She did great...the whole squad did great. We were so proud. :) So they came in last in their division...honestly, who cares? They did so great.
Tonight, back to practice. As we walk into the gym, the parents get pulled into a side room, off the gym, for a meeting. I figured it was about the upcoming competition next weekend, no big deal. Well I looked down into the gym and saw the OLD head coach there, barking at the girls. The NEW head coach was up with us, the parents. She gives us this song and dance about how "we all owe [old head coach] an apology and a 'thank you' for all the work she's done." I almost guffawed right out loud. Then she told us that "some parents" (meaning, ME) have been asking if they can sit in on practices. In a very attitudinal way, she told us that there is no way they're going to allow that, and if we can't "get behind the coaches" and comply, then they don't want our girls there, and not to bring them to the next practice. Then she started to walk out of the room! I said "hey, [new head coach], are you really not open to discussion on this?" She gave me a nasty look and said no.
I stepped outside to call DH. We discussed it for less than 5 minutes. He said that he was 100% behind me. So I went into that gym, packed up Abby's stuff, and quietly motioned for her to come with me. And we left. And that's the end.